Updated: March 3, 2021
Dayla Quinn Celebrates Her 5th Birthday at Waterworks
A few weeks ago we had my youngest daughter’s 5th birthday at an indoor pool here in Pasadena, CA. It was fun because of all the family and friends surrounding us. I loved seeing family around and watching their faces as have a great time splashing in the water or chatting poolside especially in the typical cold January month. The time spent with family and friends is always a blessing. Yes, money is great. But as I get older, the most important thing that matters to me is your generosity of time. The time you spend with somebody – that “commodity”, you’re “spending” time with them. That’s so important because time is something you can never get back. So yeah, the generosity of time is one of the best gifts you can give.
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A Few Videos From Dayla’s Party Below:
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Generosity Pays: The Rewards of Generous Behavior
We admire generous people. Fortunately, anyone can be generous. It’s not necessary to be wealthy, talented, skilled, attractive, or even likable to be generous. Anyone has the ability to give something to others, even if it’s just a shoulder to cry on.
What you might not realize is how much you gain by being generous to others.
You’re not just helping someone else. You’re helping yourself, too. Being generous has even been shown to add years to your life!
See how generosity pays off:
Self-esteem. It feels good when you put your time, attention, or financial resources toward a worthy cause, or to just help a friend. It’s proof to yourself that you’re a good person. What could be better than that?
Relationships. Your relationships improve when you’re generous. After all, both parties should be getting something out of any relationship, or it’s simply not a positive relationship.
When you’re generous, the relationship is beneficial to the other person. You also feel good about yourself, which is actually a benefit to you, too. You both have more positive feelings about the relationship. You’re also more likely to be on the receiving end of more generosity.
The more you give, the more you receive. When you’re willing to help others, others are more willing to help you. We feel obligated to reciprocate when we receive assistance or a favor from someone else. If you’re not willing to do something kind for others, you might be left wanting in your time of need.
Abundance mindset. When you’re generous, you’re sending the message that you believe there is enough for everyone. You don’t feel the need to hoard your resources. This is a powerful mindset that can greatly increase the odds of enjoying a fruitful life.
Generosity sets a good example for your children. Your children are always watching you, even if you’re convinced that they’re not listening. When you demonstrate generous behavior, your children are more likely to be generous, too. This is good for your children’s relationships and overall health.
Generosity is good for your health and longevity. Several university studies have shown that generosity decreases stress and depression. It also increases life satisfaction and lowers the risk of mortality.
The benefits of generosity aren’t always easily measured, but they are certainly present.
Experts suggest that the more we are able to see the impact of our generosity on the lives of others, the more we gain from being generous. For example, helping a child directly will impact you greater than simply sending a check to a charity for unspecified use.
An act of generosity takes your focus and attention off of yourself. This can be a well-deserved break from worrying about yourself and your challenges. It also reduces negative self-talk. Your thoughts are more positive while you’re being generous.
There is a limit, however. It’s not wise, nor healthy, to overextend yourself. You’re just as important as anyone else, and it’s critical to remember that. There are people that can be too generous. Harming yourself to help others isn’t a viable survival or success strategy.
Generosity is great for your physical and mental health. Generosity can be free, and it’s good for both you and the recipient of your generosity. Give generosity a try and see how it works for you. Make it a policy to perform one act of generosity each day and notice the results. Generosity might become a habit!
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With the recent, tragic death of Kobe Bryant, Gianna Bryant and 7 others I wanted to share some self-reflection activity…
I make the most out of my life.
I think of my life as a precious gift. Each moment brings me fresh opportunities to fulfill my dreams and enjoy the beauty surrounding me.
Regular physical activity and good nutrition keep my body fit and strong. Keeping myself in top shape gives me the capacity to honor my life.
Intellectual exercises sharpen my thinking.
Spiritual practices increase my wisdom and determination to make good choices.
Establishing priorities allows me to steer my life towards the results I want. I focus my efforts on what I find meaningful.
Spending time with family and friends makes me feel loved and connected. Devoting my talents to meaningful work helps me to build my self-esteem and contribute to society.
The more I pay attention to my surroundings, the more treasures I discover.
I believe my education is a lifelong process. I delight in learning.
I travel to meet others and get a renewed perspective on my life. I spend time appreciating works of art and natural wonders.
Today, I make a commitment to be mindful of the value of my life. I feel grateful for such abundance and resolve to make every minute count. It’s easy to get caught up in the things of this world, in comparing yourself to others, focusing on the negative news, focusing on all that you lack. That’s not how we should live our lives, though. We need to look at all our blessings and true priorities.
What are my top 3 priorities in life?
Do I spend my time on meaningful activities?
How do I want to be remembered?